Wednesday 8 July 2009

To flirt or not to flirt?

Old Faithful (geddit?)

Are people ever faithful?

I mean, totally and utterly faithful? Mentally, physically, emotionally.

I'm not so sure anymore.

I used to believe that when I met 'the one' (HA! ridiculous romantic notion #1) I wouldn't look at another man ever again. That I wouldn't be curious as to what they might look like in their undercrackers (great word) or even without. That I wouldn't think about how they might kiss. How they'd smell. Whether they could make me laugh or not. That I wouldn't think 'what if?'

But, these days, I think I've changed my mind. I'm now of the school that it's perfectly normal (maybe even healthy?) to find other people attractive, even when you're with someone you really love and want to spend the foreseeable future with. But is that cheating? Is that being mentally unfaithful? I've wrestled with this question long and hard and I think my answer is 'no'. I think it's ok to notice other people, to find them attractive, even to flirt a little, to get the validation that comes with being found attractive by someone other than your partner. It doesn't mean you love the person you're with any less. It just means you're human. I think.

What do you think?