Wednesday, 8 July 2009

To flirt or not to flirt?


Old Faithful (geddit?)


Are people ever faithful?


I mean, totally and utterly faithful? Mentally, physically, emotionally.

I'm not so sure anymore.

I used to believe that when I met 'the one' (HA! ridiculous romantic notion #1) I wouldn't look at another man ever again. That I wouldn't be curious as to what they might look like in their undercrackers (great word) or even without. That I wouldn't think about how they might kiss. How they'd smell. Whether they could make me laugh or not. That I wouldn't think 'what if?'

But, these days, I think I've changed my mind. I'm now of the school that it's perfectly normal (maybe even healthy?) to find other people attractive, even when you're with someone you really love and want to spend the foreseeable future with. But is that cheating? Is that being mentally unfaithful? I've wrestled with this question long and hard and I think my answer is 'no'. I think it's ok to notice other people, to find them attractive, even to flirt a little, to get the validation that comes with being found attractive by someone other than your partner. It doesn't mean you love the person you're with any less. It just means you're human. I think.


What do you think?



7 comments:

LizSara said...

I absolutely think it's fine and normal to look at other people and flirt with them, providing your partner understands you're going home with them it's all good and ego boosting fun

Lainey said...

The fact of the matter is that you can't help who you fancy. It is totally outwith your control.

You can control your ACTIONS though.

Brennig said...

I flirt. I can't help it. But I wouldn't stray.

nuttycow said...

The girls (and boy) have it right. You can flirt, you can imagine bad things but remember who you're going home to.

I think I'd be slightly concerned if my fella (this is my fella that I don't actually have but you know what I mean!) didn't find other women attractive. It's not healthy!

Helen said...

Thanks for your opinions people. Flirting = good. Anything more = no no no. Some people just can't keep it in their pants though.

Brennig said...

Some people just can't keep it in their pants though.
Yeah, and some girls just can't keep their knickers on. Being faithful isn't mutually exclusive to any one gender.

Helen said...

"Yeah, and some girls just can't keep their knickers on. Being faithful isn't mutually exclusive to any one gender."

I didn't specify a gender!! 'It' could mean either!