Wednesday, 24 February 2010


"We are becoming the men we wanted to marry..."

There are many ways to interpret those words (a quote I saw on Gala's site). We're becoming nasty, because women always want bad boys? We're becoming stronger and more self-sufficient, because women like those qualities in men? We're earning more and providing for ourselves, rather than waiting for a man to do it?

In the past year I've become tougher than I ever imagined possible. I've dealt with everything that's been thrown at me and emerged (relatively) unscathed and all the stronger for it. I spend a lot of my time volunteering... walking dogs and listening to those in need. I go running. I go to the gym. I eat healthily and drink a fraction of the alcohol that I used to. I laugh. I work hard (most of the time). I'm not afraid to cry. I'm fiesty and I stand up for myself, no matter what.

I spend my time loving my life.

I've always wanted to marry a man like that.

Maybe, just maybe, I've become someone he could have married.


P said...

I guess we learn from our past relationships and become stronger as a result. I''m glad you are loving life. :)

And I guess if it took losing someone to realise that, then you are better off without him...

pinkjellybaby said...

I'm toying with the idea of changing my tattoo idea and having 'Enfin' (finally) because I'm feeling much the same as you... I'm finally more me than I have been in a long time.
It's nice to know that you're getting your happy xxx

Helen said...

P - Sometimes I just wonder if we'd have worked if I could have been this me when I was with him. I'm a million times stronger than I've ever been before.

PJB - I'm getting a tattoo soon! "Per aspera ad astra"... to the stars through difficulties. Cheesy but I like it. Enfin is a great idea. I'm glad you're getting happy too xxx