Thursday, 4 June 2009

I resolve, I don't revolve

Mount's Bay Sunrise by Natasha McCrory

So, the results?

Well, it's not great news. But it's also not terrible news. My Dad's got prostate cancer. But it hasn't spread, it's slow growing and its non aggressive. His Consultant thinks he's had it for about ten or eleven years, which absolutely terrifies me to be honest. But he's ok. There is to be no operation. No chemotherapy. Radiotherapy and hormone therapy (to which I shouted 'tranny!') only. So that's good, I guess. Part of me can't quite believe that he can have had it for so long and that it can still be contained in the prostate. But he's had scans and I suppose you have to put your trust in the doctors. Difficult to do so though.

In other news, i've decided to make some resolutions. Not new year's resolutions, obviously, but June resolutions. Because I've been stuck in a bit of a rut recently and things need to change...

I resolve:
  • To lose three stone. I've rediscovered my friendship with the gym and I'm going to try and go at least three times a week. I've also been religiously sticking to a new healthy eating regime since Sunday and that's going to continue for the foreseeable future (with a short break for Glastonbury in three weeks time). With hard work, patience and a bit of support I know I can achieve fantastic results. This time it's serious.

  • To have more new experiences, visit new places and have more adventures. I want country walks, bike riding and I'd also really like to go up Snowdon in the near future. Plus more camping. Camping rocks my world.

  • To drink less alcohol. Me and C have made a two week 'no booze' pact and, to be honest, I'm relishing it. San Pellegrino with a chunk of lime for me please. Less calories, fewer hangovers, less drinker's remorse. Bring it on. This also goes hand in hand with the 'have more adventures' resolution as there should be far fewer mornings spent languishing in bed with a headache.

  • To set myself more challenges. Learn a new language, take an art class, sign up for a 5k run. All of the above are things I'd really like to do, plus innumerate others. I want to grow as a person and become the best that I can be. If you're not growing, you're stagnating.

  • To let go of the past, live in the here and now and be more excited for the future. Because I see great things on the horizon.

I think that'll do for now.

If you had to make some resolutions right now, what would they be?


smidge said...

Sending huge hugs your way, you know that the Boy has being going through the same thing with his gran. Im glad to hear that its the best something horrible can be.

As for resolutions, there is only one. That i will not let anyone stop me being me xxx

P.s get your ass up here for an adventure, quick smart, i have a spare (uncomfy, but i have great pillows) bed and lots of gin!

Kate @ Très Lola said...

I'm sorry about your Dad, however, v. glad to hear it's not any worse :)

...resolutions... hmm, to stop letting my day job bother me so much... and to make it through to glasto with no beers!

Helen said...

Smidge - I'm sorry to hear about the boy's Gran. Cancer is a horrible destructive things and I hope she's doing ok.

Don't you dare ever let anyone stop you being you. And I'm definitely coming up for a visit asap! x

Kate - Yeah, it's strange getting bad news that actually makes you relieved. I was fearing the worst!

And another glastonbury lover! Woo! xx

last year's girl said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad love, but it sounds as if he's in capable hands. All the best to him!

And great to hear you sounding so motivated - definitely girlblogger night out in Scotland before much longer xx

pinkjellybaby said...

Oh goodness...small blessings and all that. I can't believe he's had it for so long!

As for your goals, they are good...actually quite similar to mine. I have 3 stones to lose too but I doubt i'll do it. I can never stick to anything at all!

Time will tell! I have 8 weeks til i'm home for my sisters wedding (I'm bridesmaid) so I want to at least keep something up until then!

Helen said...

Lis - Thanks hun! He's ok, more relieved than anything I think as he was fearing the worst. I am so up for a girlblogger night out it's untrue! I shall try and plan something asap! xx

pjb - I'm not great at sticking to goals either but these are all things I feel I need to do for my own sanity! I'm sure you can work wonders in 8 weeks, not that you look like you need to, in my opinion! xx

pinkjellybaby said...

The only thing I'm worried about is that they say it can take 6-8 weeks for anything to begin making a difference...I will be very pissed off if 8 weeks down the line all I can do is run a bit further!

Helen said...

pjb - I don't believe that 6-8 week thing. I've only been back into exercise seriously for about a week. Combined with healthy eating and no alcohol, I already look and feel better. Good luck! x

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